last few months, a psychologist friend and I have a series of articles dealing with the almost unmanageable and very lucrative market for life consulting services. Once we have published (assuming we survive the extensive research work), I will make a brief summary and post here in my blog.
quasi a by-product thereof, is for me the analysis of, in many spiritual areas often encountered, teacher-student constellation dar.
First of all, to begin with:
In general, a spiritual teacher, nothing negative, although only just in the Western world has the connotation of the word guru often has a very derogatory connotation. This may be because traditionally, in Hinduism the teacher-student relationship involves a strange hierarchy for Central Europeans. The student will then speak servant of his guru and has to "work up" gradually, but receives in return just to get to the Möglichkkeit of his master. Such thinking is alien to us, although many trainees in the workplace with their masters and journeymen like today was made.
On the other hand, if you consider how little respect students and their teachers - and nothing else are in essence just gurus and lamas - in our schools have placed even more, even if only reward that those who make themselves the trouble, despite ostentatiously expressed indifference to convey course material surprised me this option just not too much.
It can be very useful, without question, learn from one more experienced in his field assistance and guidance, or simply just someone to have on the one can turn to with emerging issues. May be a constellation between Ratsuchedem and counselor of great benefit.
In Vajrayana, profane to us as Tibetan Buddhism called, Diamond vehicle (not to be confused with that of Ole Nydahl in the Western world, founded and propagated Diamond Way Buddhism. This is a completely different site!) Is the lama central linchpin .
Many other eastern directions, as in the Vedanta widespread system of Satsang, prefer the model of teacher (master, Guru) and students.
But no matter what system, the meaning of these models is to the student through the reflection the instruction and the provision of any necessary lessons from the teacher for his own deep knowledge and personal enlightenment, that is the awakening of the maximum potential of their own cause. In addition, the agency often comes certain techniques and skills through the Master, the pupil may be useful in this way. No more and no less.
Never such a relationship should, however, mean that the student almost to the power of the Master "dock" as, for example, a baby to his mother because of me or a client to a server.
to answer the question whether this model of mutual advantage is, there is one part of the quality and character of the master, particularly in regard to his motivation, on the other hand, the character and the needs of the student. A good teacher is there for his students, it provides guidance, but also makes him so much freedom, so he comes to his own knowledge and not in danger, to take over his teacher's simple. If this were the case, or he notices that it just comes to a dock on the part of the student described above, a good master will immediately dissociate and dissolve the relationship to close again.
After all, there are people who are only too happy to rid themselves of their ownership issued and subject and tend to take statements without reflection, just because they were bound by a master. These are then also which surprised quite react if the teacher does not specify them every step. Often they feel alone, rejected or neglected and often turn disappointed with their Lama, spiritual mentor or guru, and will seek to provide a teacher, this unconditional dependence is acceptable. This has the devastating effect that "create" such students immature perfect, so teachers who actually because of the degree of their own knowledge path are not in a position to teach students and thus also the honorary title of master, guru or lama who wrongly. There
And this kind of teachers, gurus, masters it. Them it is less a matter of bringing the students on their own path, but rather to instill in their path as the only right and move the student to apply it. And that can also within a particular system lead to considerable problems for the student.
The student must of never used to satisfy the ego of the master. A master of this kind is disclosed only that it lacks the necessary maturity and thus to the ability to teach shortage. In addition, these teachers are rarely prepared to Students from the ratio of dependence to fire again. However, this is essential when you consider that should be the purpose of helping the students also to the "championship".
But still lurks another danger. Even true champion they can not move people and by too great a proximity to a school, especially if this tends to be the teacher "to worship" the possibility exists that it loses traction and in the truest sense of the word gets a high fever.
little skeptical, I am also facing the fact, if a teacher or guru Lama gathered many students around.
course, there are excellent Masters of their craft, which are, if the opportunity opens, they may even live to see and hear in color and in particular worth to take a longer way to purchase and then it is hardly surprising that there will very many people come to share this experience.
However, with a much more intimate student-teacher ratio is not to be confused. How can this be accomplished when the champion after such an event just a brief moment, can spare time for his students, if any?
Hence, the mere quantity of the student body not as a measure of the quality a teacher apply. A spiritual guide is not a pop star, to be evaluated by whether he can fill halls, and students can not be seriously happy with where he shortly afterwards takes time to give "autographs" or to shake hands.
Frankly, I do not understand people who speak in such a serious case of "their" teacher, Lama, Guru or anything else.
It can not be satisfactory if you make up to his teacher only with the help of an opera glass on one of their own seat, far eintfernten stage and may otherwise rely only on the author of "their" teachers can literature.
own I own a considerable amount of books from their territory quite outstanding personalities and use it like as a catalyst and inspiration, but I would never think to call the authors as my teachers, just because of the personal aspect of this completely missing.
But to come back to the aspect which occur in relation to a master issued student back, which then leads to the fact that the ratio of teachers to normal again, or even necessarily have to finish.
Considering how traumatic this is for those seeking help in part, that has the disposition to be just to cling to someone so much, that he is ready for it, give yourself completely, and partly explains the many a bad injury for each teacher, master, guru or even for the whole group or the direction to which he belongs.
For an immature student, immature in the sense that he is growing the child's need for a guiding hand has not developed, then a "refusal" to be so offensive that this in downright hatred for the once-revered "father "manifests.
I can think personally a number of known examples, where students in some well-known spiritual teacher in a frenzy almost incestuous bondage to their Champion came from which they "escaped" only with great effort again and afterwards sought to blame only the opposite.
be good to point to said immature teachers, or even charlatans, come fall, that goal was the unconditional Abhängigmachung the student level, but equally likely is it that they were just victims of their false expectations of the teacher and not understood that this was reflected only what they radiated in his opinion, in turn, in the hope they would draw important lessons for themselves.
goes in no matter how harmonious teacher ratio is just without a certain critical distance from the teacher, Lama, Guru, his statements and teachings.
Despite maturity and level on the path to enlightenment or truth on my account, they remain human beings and they are extremely different, not only individually, but also very fallible. One can not stress this enough!
Caution is advised in my opinion, if someone only on each subject the statements of his llamas, or master the best and gives him to the mouth speaks, to be aware of the part without that and in some cases it neglected its own experience and knowledge, or - much worse - it keeps for his own opinion.
"My teacher says ...." - My Lama has formulated the so and so ... " - "My master makes it very differently."
In these and similar formulations in every other sentence, I am always very tame by comparison with the shake and not to shout: "And what do YOU do "
to mention how tiring it can get when the other person constantly records how, what a great number must master it, from whom he learned what it can all so - levitate, talk to dead to die and after three days rise again to drink himself to Buddha Gautama tea, etc. pp.
may be so, but so your students do not automatically also a superhero.
So little may serve a student to satisfy the ego of the master, little as it is the responsibility of a master by his mere reputation of the student to strengthen the ego.
looks similar to it, if a teacher or guru talks too much and takes the rambling monologue about his experiences and skills, making it, in my opinion, is looking to be heard. Maybe I'm
yes on the wrong track, but in my personal experience, people in the same measure in which they on their (spiritual) path is well advanced, always quiet, reserved and relaxed. Amazingly, it seems they take themselves too seriously and far less important than their native, according to some people, actually.
If you then approach them with a question, she texts a non-answer, but either very short and precise, or, with a question whose answer usually includes already the answer to the question.
This may be due to people coming to the simplest possible answer, look frustrating, but it also serves to that one, even and especially in a close teacher-student relationship, not forgotten how to think independently and autonomously.
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